Many of us are aware of the term ‘Make up sex’ and some say it’s the best sex which follows a heated argument with insults being thrown where it even looks like that things could be on the verge of a break up.

One of you may either genuinely humble yourself, or creep because you are horny and the only way to get intimate with your partner is by saying sorry. You start to grovel, which could seem embarrassing or an attack on your own stubbornness, maybe a pride too thick to swallow.

Somehow this works, however you woo your partner into seduction and now you guys are taking out your emotional frustrations out on each other in the bedroom, or wherever the setting may be.

The moment feels amazing!!!! It feels immense, euphoric – all that you were arguing about has now been forgotten for a moment. That pain has been temporarily pacified.

The question is, has it cured the problem to what led up to you both falling out with one another, or was it like taking the best paracetamol to kill the pain until it wears off?

Marital problems which never has the right treatment to help cure issues, and are on a lifelong prescription of drugs, being on a continuous course of ‘sorry’ and sex, can become toxic overtime. Its like eventually the medication will wear off, which brings us back to the underlying problems reincarnating, or even you can become immune to it over time.

That feeling of ‘love making’ can wear off – you want to increase the dosage or get a stronger drug. This is where infidelity and unfaithfulness can start to arise. That sex don’t seem as good as it used to be and you will go out to try a new drug and have an affair with this new dealer.

Now speaking of love making, most of us are instant to put it in a sexual and intimate category alone.

It’s deeper than that!!! There have been cases where people only initially fallen in love because the sex was good. Then down the line…. that sex isn’t good anymore because – there was no real love making. That was that lust that was only a novelty.

Love making is also to make the love work right in your relationship. This is when you ask yourself things pertaining to your marital issues like:

“Did we sit down to talk about the problem or problems?”

“Was I in the wrong?”

“Am I being inconsiderate?”

“Do I hear them out when they speak”

“When I apologise, do I let my partner know that I acknowledged my offence”

“Are there things which are always reoccurring that have never been really dealt with because we always try to sex it to sleep”

“Did we discuss a solution to the issues we argued over?”

“What other things can I do to make it up to them?”

Obviously, there are more questions we can ask ourselves. But this is also a process of love making – trying to reignite that love or keep it alight by always considering one another in situations. At the end of the day, a husband and wife supposed to be as one flesh and are supposed to love one another as themselves.

Once you have come to a more sincere resolution, where the time has been taken to apply better treatment than just a simple drug that wears off after a moment, then ask yourself was the sex better this time with the added love?